While objectifying men to the point that they’re considered meat for some woman’s sexual titillation can hurt men on an individual basis, it holds no cultural or social power, no institutional power.
Men don’t understand how prevalent sexual objectification is for women, and if they did, they would NEVER think men experience anything similar. Sorry, I’m cut-pasting something I wrote about this before:
Women are treated by all of society to have no more worth than titillating the male gaze. It is not even close to the same thing when a woman talks about how hot a dude is. It will never be the same thing until all men are oppressed by, brutalized for, and objectified by the female gaze the way women are by the male gaze.
Annnnyone who thinks that men ‘suffer’ the female gaze in any real, life-altering ways has NO IDEA what women experience on a DAILY BASIS, has NO IDEA what they’re talking about. If you think the male gaze is just awkward, embarrassment-causing, uncomfortable, etc, you’re wrong. You are ignorant of the true fucking depths of dehumanization caused by the male gaze.
When men objectify women, they literally ‘objectify’ them. The part of their brains that recognizes humanity is turned off while the part of their brains that recognizes a useful TOOL is turned on. They also might be conceptualizing women as brainless objects. Women don’t experience this active dehumanizing of men. Women don’t usually have the ability to turn off recognition of men-as-subjects, because men are consistently enacting violence on women in our culture and we don’t have the freedom to ignore their subjectivity. Doing so would be incredibly dangerous to women. (I say usually because I think white women def. have the ability to turn off this recognition of men’s humanity when it comes to their racist relations with moc).
The way men turn off their relationship and perception of our innate subjectivity is what allows for mass-scale dehumanization and violence against women. This is why 1/5 women (or 1/3 for indigenous women) are sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. This is what powers rape culture. Men do NOT experience this kind of mass-dehumanization and sexual objectification or this level of sexual violence.
So while it may be embarrassing for a man to feel sexually objectified and dehumanizing on a smaller scale, it is never ever the same thing as what women experience in rape culture.
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IT IS GETTING BETTER
i just burst into tears this is amazing
This is beautiful.
Seriously like two days ago Cee-Lo Green admitted to drugging and raping a woman in 2012. He deleted his twitter account because hes admitted hes guilty and that he doesnt think raping that woman was wrong bc he drugged her first WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THIS.
Keith Boykin: Does the Second Amendment Only Apply to White People? (via clambistro)
Shit, neither does the first. As demonstrated by the reaction to protesters in Ferguson.
white people wanna talk about “respecting the dead” and “remembering them for the good they’ve done” until a black person gets killed and suddenly every bad thing from their past justifies murder
I think we’ve officially reached that annoying time in the year where it’s sweater weather in the morning, but by midday, if you wear a sweater, you die from heatstroke.
honestly instead of a 50 shades of grey movie i would have paid for a ticket for footage of the first table read for 50 shades of grey where the actors all tried to keep a straight face while the director’s assistant read the stage direction
phenomenal comment chain on a lyric video for nicki minaj’s verse from Monster
I want those Black men who elevate white women above Black women to take note of the absence of young white women marching in protest for Ferguson.
Guess Becky wasn’t as down for y’all as you thought.
Lol, but at the end of the day they’re gonna ride or die for Becky regardless. Becky could literally just walk away in their moment of death and they’ll be like ‘thank you for letting me kiss your paper plate of an ass.’
GOOD BYE CRUEL WORLD